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A lovely lady I met through facebook told me something I never really thought it was so important to an expectant mom. She told me "many times an expectant mommy wants to know about the prospective adoptive parents issues with infertility". I have always been very open about it , but I was told to not emphasize too much on it in a profile book so I didn't. With this being said I will share a little bit of our story. ( I will give the full version to an expectant mom who reaches out to us, if she wants me too), as this is not a topic I feel bad to talk about. This is our reality and we have accepted it and actually embraced it.
It all started when our son turned 3 years old and we were ready to expand our family. Danny our son had been asking for a sibling so we decided it was the perfect time to start trying. We thought it would be so easy like it was our first time. After a couple of months with no luck, I started suspecting there were issues, because the first time it happened within 1 month of trying. After 6 months with no luck, my husband suggested to go see a specialist. At that time we had insurance that actually covered an infertility clinic. I made my first appointment with a reputable doctor in Miami. Well after all the tests, sonograms, and other exams, they diagnosed me with ovarian failure at the age of 32. I was told I had less the 1% chance of conceiving a baby the natural route.
So at first I was on denial and thought I would get pregnant somehow. So I went to another doctor for a second opinion since I felt the diagnoses was a bit drastic. So I met with another doctor who is an endocrinologist / reproductive medicine. He told me that it was not ovarian failure yet, but there were issues with the development of good viable ovums. He put me on Clomid and surprisingly I ovulated and had a great response to the medication. I actually got pregnant on Clomid. Six weeks later I went to see him again , and he told me Roxana you lost the baby very early on. This was my first miscarriage ever and I felt this is not real, this can't be happening to me. Why???? I asked him and he said it happens. Needless to say how much we cried that night even my husband who' s a very strong man and my rock lost it.
Years later at 39 I got pregnant again on my own without any treatments and once again we were so happy . I went to the doctor this time at 8 weeks of gestation. Doctor told me the heartbeat was strong but progesterone levels were really low. Seven days later I started bleeding, went in for a sonogram and once again I heard the most dreaded words any woman that desires to be a mom can hear. "Roxana you lost the baby, there is no heartbeat, I am sorry". This was our second miscarriage. Took me a long time to recuperate from it, it was very difficult because this time around my son even went with us to hear the heartbeat of the baby, we were devastated once again.
Our last attempt was when I turned 41 and felt more at peace with our previous miscarriages. We did and IVF cycle and by miracles of God I also got pregnant. This time I went to the doctor right away as I was being monitored very closely by my doctor. We went at 8 weeks again for the transvaginal ultrasound and everything looked great. Numbers were low but not so bad. Two weeks later I started hemorrhaging and again had miscarried our baby. This is our story and struggles with infertility. I want everyone to know that we are no longer sad about all of this, because we have come to terms that being a parent means so much more than having a child inside your womb. It means desiring them, loving them, and make them your most important priority. We know now that God had other plans for us and Adoption is the most loving way of becoming a parent, because this special Miracle is loved by so many people, the prospective Birth Family as well as the prospective Adoptive parents.
We truly hope our story shows you how much we have desired a child and how much we still do. It is in our prayers for you to give us the opportunity to parent your baby and to give us the blessing we have yearned for. We wish you strength, peace, and wisdom as you go through this difficult decision.
It all started when our son turned 3 years old and we were ready to expand our family. Danny our son had been asking for a sibling so we decided it was the perfect time to start trying. We thought it would be so easy like it was our first time. After a couple of months with no luck, I started suspecting there were issues, because the first time it happened within 1 month of trying. After 6 months with no luck, my husband suggested to go see a specialist. At that time we had insurance that actually covered an infertility clinic. I made my first appointment with a reputable doctor in Miami. Well after all the tests, sonograms, and other exams, they diagnosed me with ovarian failure at the age of 32. I was told I had less the 1% chance of conceiving a baby the natural route.
So at first I was on denial and thought I would get pregnant somehow. So I went to another doctor for a second opinion since I felt the diagnoses was a bit drastic. So I met with another doctor who is an endocrinologist / reproductive medicine. He told me that it was not ovarian failure yet, but there were issues with the development of good viable ovums. He put me on Clomid and surprisingly I ovulated and had a great response to the medication. I actually got pregnant on Clomid. Six weeks later I went to see him again , and he told me Roxana you lost the baby very early on. This was my first miscarriage ever and I felt this is not real, this can't be happening to me. Why???? I asked him and he said it happens. Needless to say how much we cried that night even my husband who' s a very strong man and my rock lost it.
Years later at 39 I got pregnant again on my own without any treatments and once again we were so happy . I went to the doctor this time at 8 weeks of gestation. Doctor told me the heartbeat was strong but progesterone levels were really low. Seven days later I started bleeding, went in for a sonogram and once again I heard the most dreaded words any woman that desires to be a mom can hear. "Roxana you lost the baby, there is no heartbeat, I am sorry". This was our second miscarriage. Took me a long time to recuperate from it, it was very difficult because this time around my son even went with us to hear the heartbeat of the baby, we were devastated once again.
Our last attempt was when I turned 41 and felt more at peace with our previous miscarriages. We did and IVF cycle and by miracles of God I also got pregnant. This time I went to the doctor right away as I was being monitored very closely by my doctor. We went at 8 weeks again for the transvaginal ultrasound and everything looked great. Numbers were low but not so bad. Two weeks later I started hemorrhaging and again had miscarried our baby. This is our story and struggles with infertility. I want everyone to know that we are no longer sad about all of this, because we have come to terms that being a parent means so much more than having a child inside your womb. It means desiring them, loving them, and make them your most important priority. We know now that God had other plans for us and Adoption is the most loving way of becoming a parent, because this special Miracle is loved by so many people, the prospective Birth Family as well as the prospective Adoptive parents.
We truly hope our story shows you how much we have desired a child and how much we still do. It is in our prayers for you to give us the opportunity to parent your baby and to give us the blessing we have yearned for. We wish you strength, peace, and wisdom as you go through this difficult decision.
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We want to share our email address to easily contact us. Our email is rpd43@hotmail.com
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